I was visiting with a close friend who was recently with a family struck by loss. We spoke candidly, as we often do, and I asked her what in the world you should bring people during a time that is devastating and life altering. Frankly, I feel clueless in this area. 

Here are some ideas & suggestions that I hope you’ll find helpful – though I wish no one ever had to go through it. 

RESPECT

If the family has asked for privacy and no visitors, honor them. If they want you – they’ll ask. Sometimes we want to rally and support because we too feel helpless. It’s hard to not make their grief about us sometimes. So, make yourself available, but do not intrude.

ABOUT FOOD 

  • First, if you’re thinking of bringing food, know the dietary needs of the family you’re trying to bless. These days there are so many people with nut allergies and not to mention gluten and dairy intolerant.
  • Breakfast food. With this particular family in grief, they actually needed this the most. 
  • Bring food prepared in disposable containers. On a GOOD day, nobody wants to do dishes. Never mind the chore of returning dishes. 

PAPER GOODS & HOUSEHOLD ITEMS

I would have never thought of bringing these items:

  • Toilet paper
  • Paper towels
  • Paper plates
  • Plastic utensils
  • Garbage bags
  • Laundry baskets 

FOR KIDS

  • Warm, fuzzy (large) blankets 
  • Coloring books
  • Legos 

I hope you’ve found this helpful and as insightful as I have, though I dread the day this knowledge may come in handy. 

Author

Textbook extrovert. If there’s a stage, Jenny wants to be on it; whether it’s singing in church, doing stand-up comedy or acting. She has recently joined a cult called LuLaRoe. Her husband, David, is deeply concerned. Jenny and David, a pastor, are recently celebrating eighteen years of marriage. After years of infertility, they became adoptive parents of two year old twin boys in 2014. They’ve never been happier or more exhausted. Every day is an adventure. Jenny blogs at thefivestages.wordpress.com and has a regular feature in Tualatin Life newspaper called Everyday Heroes to celebrate those serving our community. She and her husband started a clothing line based on their story and you can check it out at bottlecapbadge.com. There’s nothing we can’t do with a little bit of love and a whole lot of caffeine.

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