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I can’t think of a more protective love than that of a parent. As parents, we want to protect our kids from pain. For my fellow adoptive parents out there, we want to shield them from rejection and the pain of abandonment – which I fear is not only impossible but inevitable at least on some level. As Beth put it, it means “I’ve got your back”. David and I came up with a motto early in our courtship, “you, me & God”. I think of it as our take on Ecclesiastes 4:12 – Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Beth and I are continuing our look at love. What does it mean to rejoice in the truth? I can tell you what it means to me where I’m at in life right now. I cling to God’s promises – because they are truth. The truth is truth no matter how I feel. It remains steadfast and unwavering regardless of circumstance. The truth is the truth no matter what you or I happen to believe. Truth conquers doubt. I cling to God’s holy word – because IT is truth. It’s my lamp. It’s my road map. I rejoice in this truth, and in it I experience but a glimpse of God’s love. I say a “glimpse” because my human mind is too small to ever fully comprehend who God is. He is too big. Unfathomable. Rain or shine, the truth remains. Constant. There is love in that.

I didn’t think I was the gloating type. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy hitting my husband with an “I told ya so” when appropriate. Not exactly kind or loving, huh? Gloating is what Beth & I are looking at today. At almost 19 years of marriage, I’m guessing I’ve said it thousands of times. The worst part of it is that it changes nothing! It doesn’t turn the clock back. It doesn’t make things better. In fact, depending on the situation – it can really hurt someone’s feelings. Honestly, I don’t need to be right. I don’t have to win. What’s the prize? A ribbon that says “congratulations, you’re a jerk”? So, this is me. Trying to be better. Because love doesn’t gloat, so neither should I. Especially with the one I love most. **No Beatles cover this week. I’m just tired.**

I think it’s safe to say that most of us have a list of people we wouldn’t want to run into at the grocery store. Today, Beth and I are talking about having a “record of wrongs” as we continue our study of love in 1 Corinthians 13. I don’t consider myself a grudge-holder. But I’m noticing as I get older, I don’t care to rebuild bridges that others have burned with me. I’m a “forgive and cut them loose” type. I don’t beg people to stay in my life. Especially those who hurt me. All of that is fine and good, unless you are keeping a mental ledger of who has done you wrong. The fact that I always return to is that if the Creator of heaven and earth can forgive- why can’t I? If He can cast things into the sea of forgetfulness, then why do I…

Beth & I are continuing our love series in 1 Corinthians 13. Today, we’re talking about how love is not rude. To put it simply: don’t be a jerk. Don’t be the kind of person who constantly corrects others, needs to be right or knows everything. You can be right – or you can have friends. I used to think that being assertive or direct was rude. Then I met people who could be those things in a loving and kind way. It is possible to be a professional in the corporate world and be successful without be rude! I’ve seen it. I admire it! It’s effective. Rudeness is really just a poor excuse for someone without social skills or it can expose someone with an agenda. Relationships shouldn’t be transactional. Don’t have an agenda in your relationships. Just love. Here’s this week’s Beatles cover. ​[wpvideo YY6GtFSF]​

One of the reasons I love partnering with Beth in this collaborative effort is because she thinks different than me. Her posts are study driven while mine tend to be anecdotal. We’re looking at Matthew 5:8 this week as we continue our look at the Beatitudes. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. I want to talk about having pure motives. It’s actually something I pray for and give myself frequent heart check-ups. Here’s a few questions I ask myself regarding serving and/or giving: Will anyone know I did this? How do I benefit from it? Will this lead to future opportunities or get me close to certain people? Will this glorify the Lord or myself? There’s many types of people you can become if you don’t ask yourself these questions. Here are some examples of people who do not ask themselves these questions: The Superhero…

My husband has to work late sometimes. NBD. Everyone has been there. (This is the part where I bow in unworthiness to single mamas. I literally don’t know how you do it – you’re incredible.) I’m going to be honest: I’m afraid to take my kids places when I’m alone. Maybe because they’ve run opposite directions on me too many times over the years. I simply don’t trust them. Then you’re forced to choose which child you love more. I’m kidding. That was a joke. But it’s horrible and you look like a bad parent. So, when on those occasions I’m flying solo, I go into lockdown mode. Dinner is something super easy like pizza, and we play outside and watch a movie. The children get bored, fight, whine and act defiant, thus reinforcing my reasoning for said lockdown mode. I feel like the Oprah of discipline. It’s exhausting. It’s…

I’m convinced there’s 2 things we ALL need to keep updated before we need them: – Passport – Resume This way, you’re ready to GO. Don’t wait until you NEED a new resume. This way you’ve got it when you do need it! If someone told you about a great opportunity, would you be able to send them something immediately? Or maybe you get that call in the middle of the night like I did a decade ago when my stepdad was hospitalized in Hong Kong while away on a business trip. We had to drive to Seattle to get new passports because our old ones had expired. I’m convinced now that I need to get them for my kids. I want to be ready in case of emergencies – and ready for an adventure should that opportunity arise. Are you ready?

In her blog over at http://forliberty.typepad.com/forlibertya_brave_hearts_/2017/08/how-could-god-allow.html Beth defined the word “meek” beautifully in her post as we continue our look at the Beatitudes in Matthew 5:5 – Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth. I love the definition of meekness: What does it require of us to become humbly patient? I would say – trust. Who you put your trust in has a lot to do with your attitude and outlook on life, doesn’t it? What does it take to trust him? The bottom line is this: the realization that He is FOR you and that His plans for you are good. Here’s one of my favs for you to enjoy. https://youtu.be/UbSMfL5LuSo

Today, I passed by someone I hardly know from the office next door in the parking lot. She said, “how are you today?” I said, “good thanks, and you?” She said, “I’m blessed, highly favored and deeply loved.” I said, “oh”. I got in my car and drove away feeling very uncomfortable. So. Awkward. But why? Why am I uncomfortable with this young lady expressing her faith? Is it because I think that she thinks I’m not a Christ-follower? Is she trying to witness to me? Do I give off that impression? Do I not look or act Jesusy enough? HOW DO I EVEN RESPOND TO THAT? Maybe the answer is a statement tee. Here’s a few options: 1. It says I mean business. 2. This says I’m fun but also appreciate acronyms. 3. I’m unclear as to what this even means. “Christ like swag” like I wear sandals a…