Just because I'm crazy doesn't mean I'm wrong.

I Told Ya So

I didn’t think I was the gloating type. But I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy hitting my husband with an “I told ya so” when appropriate. Not exactly kind or loving, huh? Gloating is what Beth & I are looking at today. At almost 19 years of marriage, I’m guessing I’ve said it thousands of times. The worst part of it is that it changes nothing! It doesn’t turn the clock back. It doesn’t make things better. In fact, depending on the situation - it can really hurt someone’s feelings. Honestly, I don’t need to be right. [...]

My List

I think it’s safe to say that most of us have a list of people we wouldn’t want to run into at the grocery store. Today, Beth and I are talking about having a “record of wrongs” as we continue our study of love in 1 Corinthians 13. I don’t consider myself a grudge-holder. But I’m noticing as I get older, I don’t care to rebuild bridges that others have burned with me. I’m a “forgive and cut them loose” type. I don’t beg people to stay in my life. Especially those who hurt me.  All of that is fine [...]

Irritable is the New Black

I’m unsure of when it happened. But I’ve been super grumpy lately. Everything kind of annoys me. And when I feel that way, I tend to retreat because I don’t want to subject others to my poor attitude. Maybe it’s sleep deprivation. Maybe it’s the demands of wifedom & Motherhood. I wear irritable like a classic black dress to a party, but I’m not wearing it well. It doesn’t feel good. Beth and I are continuing our look at love based on 1 Corinthians 13. This week is about not being irritable. I want my love to not be so easily [...]

What’s In It For Me?

Beth and I are continuing our look at 1 Corinthians 13. Today we’re talking about what it means to be self seeking. I’m so tired and worn out as I write this. Sunday’s have become the hardest day of my week, and thus I’ve dubbed them the new Monday. My kids gave me a run for my money and I acted like a crazy person at church. I was so wound up, I could barely speak to anyone. What’s interesting is when you pray for God to give you children for the better part of a decade, you experience tremendous guilt [...]

Don’t Be A Jerk

Beth & I are continuing our love series in 1 Corinthians 13. Today, we’re talking about how love is not rude. To put it simply: don’t be a jerk. Don’t be the kind of person who constantly corrects others, needs to be right or knows everything. You can be right - or you can have friends.  I used to think that being assertive or direct was rude. Then I met people who could be those things in a loving and kind way. It is possible to be a professional in the corporate world and be successful without be rude! I’ve [...]

Arrogance vs Confidence

Beth & I are looking at arrogance today in the love chapter, 1 Corinthians 13. I used to believe confidence was a form of arrogance. That somehow knowing who you are in Christ and walking in that truth makes you stuck up. I couldn’t be more wrong. It is actually the opposite. There’s a humility found in walking in the fullness of the Spirit and embracing who you are in Christ. There’s a freedom in knowing you’re nothing without Him.  Arrogance is an outward response to a deep rooted insecurity. It causes people to puff themselves up to the point [...]

Boastest the Mostest

Beth and I are continuing our look at 1 Corinthians 13. Today, we’re talking about boasting. In this golden age of technology, where every hiccup and fart is documented on social media, there’s an onslaught of “humble bragging”.  It seems like everyone is doing something cool. Living the good life. The best restaurants, concerts, vacations, schools - you name it. I think it’s easy to let our social media become a highlight reel.  But what if we were honest - with ourselves and others. That our Snapchat’s of life aren’t always the real picture, but a filtered image we want [...]

Me vs The Green Eyed Monster

When I say "green eyed monster", I'm not referring to my husband. Im speaking, of course, about jealousy.  Beth and I are continuing our look at love in 1 Corinthians 13; what it is and what it is not. And - it is not jealous; it does not envy.  I've been debating what to write here for days. I didn't know this was an issue for me, but here I am.  Years ago, maybe even as far back as my childhood, I'd pray to be able to sing like other people I admired. I often found myself jealous of their ability [...]

Kindness is the Cure

Kindness is like that perfect black dress; it never goes out of style. It costs nothing to be kind, yet means the world to the recipient.  Beth and I are looking at 1 Corinthians 13:4b love is kind. When was the last time you saw a kind political debate over social media?  These are dark times in our country between natural disasters and acts of hate. If ever there was a time for kindness, it's now.  It's love in action; whether it's a smile at the grocery store cashier or donating blood to Red Cross. Kindness is doing what you can [...]

Patience & Progress

Beth and I are looking at the love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13. Today we are looking at patience or as I like to call it - NOBODY'S strong suit!  My first month working in education, I've decided teachers and parents of small children are among the most patient of people.  When your love for someone is enough to suppress annoyance, you my friend have found patience.  To me, patience is when you not only come to the end of yourself. You not only love someone as a work in progress, but see them for who they could be and [...]